Get Over It – Get a Pedicure

Yesterday I was worried. Today I got over it and had a pedicure instead. Some might call it denial and judge me superficial and trying to avoid confronting my pain. I call it being in the moment and enjoying life every single day as long as I can.

We all go through rough phases in our lives that seem particularly hard and unfair. As the saying goes, “When it rains it pours”. Suddenly our lives fall apart. Beloved friends or family members die.  We have financial worries and problems at work. Even simple daily routines go wrong. You accidentally break your favorite piece of china. Your beautiful earrings from Italy are lost, and let’s not forget that cute pair of jeans which shrunk in the dryer. (You will never be able to wear them unless you starve yourself to a size two.) The whole world is against you – at least this is what it feels like.

Now what? You will mourn the losses and suffer from pain and you cannot let go of it. You question your fate, and you complain about constant bad luck. Everything and everyone is against you. Life is unfair. People are unfair. You feel like the victim. You are now trapped, running around in circles, and it seems like there is no way out of the misery.

This is the time when you must decide to let go and maybe have a pedicure. Seriously! When the world is falling apart around you, it is time to take good care of yourself and live your life moment by moment. All the suffering has its roots either in the past or in the future, while the present moment is what is real. You cannot rewrite history and you cannot determine everything that will happen in the future. Who knows what the future will bring or if there is a future at all? NOW is what is real and what you can enjoy.

Being in the NOW means enjoying what you have and breathing every single breath as if it is your last. Suffering pain is certainly part of the present, but don’t let it turn you into a lifelong victim or patient. Acknowledge everything that life is challenging you with, but don’t accept defeat. It is like the sunshine that comes and goes. “Enjoy the brightness and warmth when it is there, and enjoy the darkness when it is gone again. A life full of sunshine would not let you appreciate its magic.”  It is the darkness that makes us appreciate the sun – the anticipation of recurring warmth and brightness and the protection of the darkness that can give you peace and recovery. Only when you can find joy in both the light and darkness, are you living a happy life. If you can only enjoy the sun, you will be worried and scared when the light is gone again.

If you want to live a life full of pain and suffering, hold on tight to what you have and try to fight it, but you will eventually lose the battle and your quality of life. If you accept what is and enjoy the beauty and richness of now, you will still experience pain and suffering, but you will be strong enough to see the sun rising again. Happiness will always be right around the corner.

I wish you all the strength you need to live a happy life. You deserve it.

Be a woman and act like one.

I would love it if you would share your story of success with this blog community.

What is your experience with moments of pain or sadness and how did you get over it?