I dedicate this article to a wonderful friend. She represents feminine power in a way many women are striving for. Being hurt by an unhappy relationship, she still believes in herself and converts her disappointment into moving on – alone at least for a while.
Even when I was losing … I still had the feeling that he cannot hurt me. Either I can win the match, or I can lose the match. Sometimes I was a little surprised at how slow he played the balls.”
Many single women are very frustrated about their marital status. Why is everybody married but me? Why can’t I find Mr. Right? Why do I always pick the wrong guys? Why am I unable to make good choices when it comes to men? Why does my boss always pick me when it comes to working overtime while my married coworkers seem to enjoy marital protection? Why, why, why…
There are so many questions and doubts when it comes to finding a partner for life. Finding true love seems like a special gift only given to the selected – the lucky ones. That is not true. It is up to you to decide whether you are a lucky one or not. It is your very own decision to become a lucky one by believing in your femininity and the beauty of who you are. How can you do that?
Start with yourself by falling in love with yourself. Cherish the person you are and settle in a stable and safe space for yourself. Let me explain. If you want to sing in a duet or a choir, first of all you must develop your own voice. You practice with all your passion until you feel confident about your singing skills. It is not before you have reached a certain skill and confidence that you can sing in a duet or a group. The beauty of a duet or choir is combined voices at their best. Now let us apply this into a love relationship. First you must learn to be in tune with yourself and gain confidence and competence. In the next step, you can leave your safe haven and find a partner. Unfortunately there is another obstacle. Finding harmony in music by combining a bass and a soprano can become a challenge. The trick is to find a voice that works well with yours and makes a wonderful tone. Welcome to the world of dating.
There are so many options and I don’t want to talk about all the dating sites, singles events and other activities. I understand that you hate getting out there to go men shopping, but you must become active if you are serious about finding a partner. Nobody is knocking at your door other than the mail man (maybe he’s cute!). Dating will not hurt you as long as you are not needy and insecure. You must be a victim to become victimized. This is not the path you want to go. Make sure you are ready before you enter the dating world.
Assuming you have developed your space and found your voice, assuming you feel confident and self-assured, no man can truly hurt your feelings. No disappointment will be strong enough to destroy you and your beautiful voice. Why? Because you will always have yourself and that is your strongest asset.
Be a woman and act like one. Please share your own story about living a single life and dating.
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