It’s not all about looks
Hello, wise Bond girl. Did you read my latest blog? Could you relate to the struggle with aging and did you discover your sense of humor and wisdom to respond to the unstoppable evolution of aging with ease and lightness? I really hope so, because real beauty is not just a facade.
I must admit that I am conscious of my own looks. It is important to me to look the best I can. What do I mean by looking good? Of course, I like to dress up and polish my look. But what gives me the real kick has nothing to do with fashion or make-up. I love the days when I feel connected with myself and I am in balance. I feel that this inner balance shows on the outside. It has nothing to do with feeling younger, but I like what I see in the mirror and this is a happy middle aged woman who has kept a certain glow and shine. This is what I like to see in myself and this is what makes my day. If then I encounter disapproval or non-recognition, such as I described in the little anecdotes in my last blog, I can easily live with it. I can develop the sense of humor needed to deal with it, because I am in a good place in my life.
This leads to the question: Is beauty visible to everybody?’ It takes certain skills to see through the façade and discover the true value. Not everybody is able to see what is not obvious. There is a saying, ‘Not all that shines is gold’. For us women, this means we can use as much make-up as we like, we can wear the coolest fashion and slim down to model sizes and we will still not be beautiful. Isn’t that weird? Fashion magazines show us exactly that and pretend it is called beauty. They are wrong. They show us the world of glamor and fill our hearts with envy, but all they show us is façade.
Once women understand that facades have no depth and are rather misleading, women will begin the real make-up – a make-up of their inner values. What makes us beautiful is who we are and what we represent in the meaning of virtues, emotional skills and personality. Yes, you will say, that is what they all say. It is the inner beauty that counts, but then by the end of the day, the young and beautiful woman gets the promotion, or the sexy lady gets all the attention. How can inner beauty help me to succeed in my life?
As I said, the problem is that many people out there do not have the ability to recognize real beauty and they make their decisions based purely upon appearances. We cannot change this stupidity and incompetence by complaining and feeling sorry for ourselves. Not everybody gets it, and that is o.k. It is on you to decide whether you let these disappointments get under your skin or if you simply take it with humor and maybe compassion for these innocent, misguided souls.
Your choice is to stay true to yourself and be authentic and real. Of course, we make sure we look our best, but that is not the key to success and accomplishment. The main challenge we have is to work on being a beautiful woman from the inside. Being beautiful means for example being real, showing glow, feeling confident, making smart choices, having a great sense of humor, expressing love and simply embracing the person you are. The more you are in tune with who you are, the more others will be in tune with you. When you feel good about yourself, others will find it much easier to like you. When you are feeling beautiful as a woman, others will look at you the same way (a few dumb exceptions just confirm the rule). As a result, creating beauty is a simple yet nonetheless tough challenge. It is so much easier to dress sexy and wear glamorous make-up than restoring your inside. It takes much more effort to find inner balance and build self-confidence than to dress up for an occasion.
If you are willing to work and create your own beauty, you will not only convince the outside world, but you will become a much happier person. This new person reveals an ageless beauty that can compete with anything and everybody if necessary. This ageless beauty glows like the first morning light. It brings beauty and guidance to the world and grows into the glorious light that makes it so unique.
Be a woman and act like one.
In the last part of the series, I would like to talk about older women I love and adore and what we can learn from them.
Finally over 50!
An homage to the women over 50 and older – much, much older